A Dialogue With My 86-year-old Grandmother About LGBT Rights & Marriage Equality

  • I saw this article:
  • http:
  • //www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/29/gay-activists-grandparents-marriage-equality_n_1310537.html
  • earlier this afternoon and I got suddenly curious how my 86yo grandmother felt about marriage equality and LGBT rights. Since she's often hilarious, I decided to interview her on the phone and post it here. I put it on speakerphone, recorded it, then transcribed it. She's in Miami, and Cuban-born, so this is translated from Spanish. She's a pretty feisty lady. I want to be her when I grow up. Here's what she said:
  • Me:
  • Grandma, what do you think about this couple in their 90s supporting their gay grandkids in the fight for marriage equality?
  • Grandma:
  • I think it's very nice. You have to support your family, no matter who they are. You can't reject people for things like that.
  • Me:
  • If you had gay or lesbian family, would you do the same?
  • Grandma:
  • I don't know if I could make a video like those people. They speak English.
  • Me:
  • What about in Spanish? Would you make videos supporting marriage equality in Spanish.
  • Grandma:
  • Ay... don't get any ideas. I don't want to make a video.
  • Me:
  • But is it okay if I post this on the Internet? On one of my websites
  • Grandma:
  • Ignorant people might yell at you.
  • Me:
  • Oh, that's okay, I don't mind.
  • Grandma:
  • Yes, you can put what I said on the Internet.
  • Me:
  • Okay. So do you support gay and lesbian people getting married?
  • Grandma:
  • I think gay people should be able to get married. Times have changed. Even my ideas have changed. There used to be a lot of ignorance and rumors about gay people, mostly because they had to live in hiding, you know, you couldn't be yourself out in public like they can be sometimes now. So I think people just made things up. But think gay people should be allowed to live their lives like everyone else.
  • Me:
  • Would you go to a gay wedding?
  • Grandma:
  • Yes, I would. It would probably be more lively than a regular one. I hate weddings. They're so boring.
  • Me:
  • They really are. What do you think about people who protest gay marriage?
  • Grandma:
  • Oh. Idiots.
  • Me:
  • They're wrong?
  • Grandma:
  • Idiots. Dumb people with nothing better to do. Out of all the things to protest. They should be out trying to do some good in the world instead.
  • Me:
  • Do you think you would have felt the same way when you were my age?
  • Grandma:
  • (Pauses) I don't think I gave it any thought. People didn't talk about these things back then. There was a lot of ignorance. Everybody knew gay people, of course, but people didn't talk about it in normal conversation, much less in public like on the news now. I think that's good. Talking is always good. When people know things, they can make up their own minds.I would like to think that maybe with a little information and thinking about it, I would feel the same way.
  • Me:
  • Do you think gay people should be able to adopt kids?
  • Grandma:
  • Of course.
  • Me:
  • As a Christian, what do you think the Bible says about gay people?
  • Grandma:
  • The Bible is very clear that Jesus doesn't care about race or gender or where you came from or anything. He loves everyone.
  • Me:
  • What about the parts of the Bible that says gay people should be stoned to death?
  • Grandma:
  • We don't stone people to death anymore...
  • Me:
  • So you don't think that applies?
  • Grandma:
  • I think God gave us some common sense to be able to figure out what parts were meant for forever, like "don't kill" and "don't steal" and "be good to people," and what parts were just a record of the society people lived in back then. We don't hide women in the dark during their periods anymore, either. Things like that.
  • Me:
  • What about gays in the military? Do you think that should be allowed?
  • Grandma:
  • You know, when I heard President Obama had helped made that legal, I was surprised it already wasn't. If you're willing to pick up a gun and go fight in some war somewhere for my freedom, I'm not willing to do that, so if you are, I don't care if you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or fifteen cats.
  • Me:
  • Yeah, I think most people supported that one.
  • Grandma:
  • It's like I told you. God gave us common sense for a reason.
  • Me:
  • I know you've had a few close gay male friends. Have you ever had a lesbian friend?
  • Grandma:
  • I did in Cuba. She was my neighbor and she did everyone's hair on the block. You couldn't really tell she was a lesbian, but she told me, after many years of knowing her.
  • Me:
  • What do you mean by "you couldn't tell she was a lesbian?"
  • Grandma:
  • Well, she was very glamorous. She looked like a movie star all the time - that's why she did everyone's hair. Some lesbians, you can tell.
  • Me:
  • In English, they call the ability to tell if someone's gay "gaydar." Like "radar" but for "gay."
  • Grandma:
  • Oh! I think I have that.
  • Me:
  • You think you have good gaydar?
  • Grandma:
  • Well, I was an artist, so I was around a lot of gay men. And I can usually tell, but Paula fooled me.
  • Me:
  • The slang term for lesbians who are very conventionally feminine in English is "lipstick lesbian."
  • Grandma:
  • She did wear lipstick!
  • Me:
  • Do you think a lot of older people think like you do?
  • Grandma:
  • I think so. A lot of older people keep up with the news better than you think. And you get to be my age and you realize a lot of past mistakes in your thinking. You realize that a lot of things you think mattered, really don't. And the people who don't think like that, it's mostly because they don't know any better. But even at my age, people can be taught.
  • Me:
  • Thank you, Pupa.
  • Grandma:
  • You should show me your website when you put this up. I hope a lot of people read it.

  • When Archie and Valerie first started dating back in 2010, I wrote about what it meant in the context of a company that in the past had treated interracial dating as something so controversial that obviously black characters were colored in the stories to have lighter skin. In fact, it was standard practice for years to introduce minority characters in twos so that they could pair off without having to date Betty or Veronica — a Nancy for every Chuck and a Frankie Valdez for every Ginger Lopez.

    Archie and Valerie change all that, and the way that it’s been pulled off in the past by writer/artist Dan Parent, one of Archie’s strongest creators, has made perfect sense. They build their relationship on a mutual love of music and, in Archie’s case, the fact that he falls in love with beautiful girls regardless of race. As an isolated idea, it meant a lot, but in elevating it to this level, their relationship is being treated as something just as valid as Archie’s relationships with Betty and Veronica. The addition of a daughter, something that hasn’t been explored in the Betty or Veronica marriages and something that has traditionally been even more controversial in American history, goes even further — in a good way.

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Administrative Assistant

Canadian Journalism Foundation

Full-time contract position

Start Date: August 2011

Term of Contract: 12 month contract; possibility of renewal  

Salary: Commensurate with experience and qualifications

Deadline for application: August 5, 2011

The Canadian Journalism Foundation (CJF) is a not-for-profit organization that promotes excellence in journalism by celebrating outstanding journalistic achievement through an annual awards program; by operating journalism websites, J-Source.ca (English) and ProjetJ.ca (French), in cooperation with the country’s leading journalism schools; and by organizing events that facilitate dialogue among journalists, business people, politicians, government officials and academics about the role of the media in Canadian society.

Reporting directly to the executive director, this position is responsible for providing assistance and support to the overall operation of the Canadian Journalism Foundation. The position requires strong computer and internet research skills, excellent interpersonal skills, and the ability to work well with all levels of volunteer management and staff as well as stakeholders and vendors.

This position will be of particular interest to an administrative professional who is a highly organized self-starter and enjoys having the broad range of responsibilities that goes with working in a small organization.

Essential Functions/Responsibilities:

GENERAL ADMINISTRATION

Manage administrative systems to ensure smooth and efficient operation of the office and programs, including management of the office equipment (phone/computers/etc). Maintain office supplies and filing system, and complete general office duties including photocopying, faxing, and coordinating mail-outs and courier services. Maintain and update databases and distribution lists. Organize Board of Director and committee meetings including drafting and distribution of meeting minutes.

SUPPORT FOR FUNDRAISING AND FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT

Keep an accurate log of all donations received, issue and record all tax receipts, and prepare and send thank you letters. Process incoming bills and outgoing cheques. Maintain monthly files of revenues and expenses to be transferred to bookkeeper. Conduct prospect research and track fundraising activity. Prepare and follow-up on invoices and provide other financial management support as required.

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Assist with execution, tracking and evaluation of all events, including the annual awards gala. Prepare prospect lists, coordinate mail-outs, liaise with participants, assist with promotion, etc.. Assist with management of the awards programs, including promotions, tracking applications and coordinating with award committees.

 The ideal candidate will be a professional with:

-3 to 5 years experience in office administration

-Strong knowledge of office software including Word, Excel and PowerPoint required

-Strong problem solving abilities

-Accuracy and high attention to detail

-Excellent interpersonal and organizational skills and experience working with volunteer committees

-Excellent oral and written communication skills

-Experience in event organization is an asset

-Basic fundraising knowledge and experience in data entry and donation handling an asset

-Working knowledge of French is an asset

-Understanding that extended hours are necessary upon occasion

Only those selected for an interview will be contacted. No phone calls, please.

Please forward your curriculum vitae and cover letter by 5:00 pm on Friday August 5, 2011. 

If after reviewing the above requirements and responsibilities you feel you have the necessary qualifications, please direct your resume in confidence to:

Natalie Turvey

Executive Director

The Canadian Journalism Foundation

59 Adelaide Street East, Suite 500

Toronto, ON M5C 1K6

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